<< Back to all Blogs
Login or Create your own free blog
Layout:
Home > 12 Steppers - Am I wrong to have a resentment?

12 Steppers - Am I wrong to have a resentment?

August 26th, 2009 at 04:21 pm

I just celebrated a double digit anniversary in AA. (ODAT). I introduced myself to a woman I never saw before at a meeting, a potential interim sponsee, Monday.

(WARNING - Long story): I told her I would be celebrating at a group anniversary Tuesday and would she come and hear me speak. (I think it's nice for sponsees to hear sponsors speak/vice versa). She said 'I'd love to hear you, but it conflicts with my schedule'. I asked her if she was working and she told me she would be at another meeting EXACTLY when I would be speaking. (eh la). My gut told me to cut to the chase and said 'so, you don't want to hear me speak?' She said, 'that's not it, but it conflicts with my schedule'. (Again). I said, okay, see ya later and hung up.

I know the BB meeting she was at was exceptional but I feel that she could have shown willingness by showing up at my meeting that one time. When I introduced myself to her Monday she panted, 'could I have your number?' Then she not-so-politely interrogated my sponsor credentials. (including my age when I got sober - OUCH!) Good questions, the right questions, but no boundaries.

So - am I wrong for having a resentment? Or did I save time? Rejection hurts, even when it's probably for the best.

Yup - the group anniversary was great, with lots of people I've known for years, many who saw me count days. It was special and we all told stories and laughed so hard the chairs shook.



Posted in Uncategorized | 4 Comments »

4 Responses to “12 Steppers - Am I wrong to have a resentment?”

  1. North Georgia Gal Says:
    August 26th, 2009 at 04:37 pm 1251304663
    1251304663

    I don't know much about AA...but it sounds to me like she might have to do a certain amount of classes and is getting them all done as quick as possible. My brother did that. He was court ordered for so many groups so he went to like 4-5 a week so he could get them done. Is it possibly the same situation?

  2. dublares Says:
    August 26th, 2009 at 06:25 pm 1251311141
    1251311141

    Good thinking, but, no, she is not court-ordered. I make an average of 5 meetings a week because I like them as well as need them! How is your brother doing now?

  3. miclason Says:
    August 27th, 2009 at 01:50 am 1251337825
    1251337825

    I donīt know much about AA (although my nephew has been in ALL rehab centers in this country, only recently has he begun to go to AA)... That being said... I would let it go, just because it seems an awful waste of energy not to... I would try to invite her to some other event some other time, though, kind of give her a second chance...

  4. dublares Says:
    August 29th, 2009 at 12:06 am 1251504364
    1251504364

    ITA, now that some time has past, let it go. If I see her again, maybe we'll talk.

Leave a Reply

(Note: If you were logged in, we could automatically fill in these fields for you.)
*
Will not be published.
   

* Please spell out the number 4.  [ Why? ]

vB Code: You can use these tags: [b] [i] [u] [url] [email]